Apr 27th, 2017, 01:58 PM

College Students Who Cheat

By Jomana Saber
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Cheating isn't just for older married couples. College students cheat on their partners too.

Cheating in a relationship is a very old story that has become a new trend. If you haven't experienced it yet, there's a good chance you eventually will. Everyone, it seems, is cheating.

However, not everyone defines cheating the same way. So let's start with a definition: What is cheating? According to Truthaboutdeception.com, “In a very broad sense, cheating involves betraying a partner’s expectations about the type of contact the cheater has with others.” The article gives examples such as “Flirting, engaging in sexual talk, denying you’re in a committed relationship, becoming emotionally involved with someone else and much more.” The "much more" is, of course, the point of no return.

Indeed, the problem with cheating is that, when it happens, it cannot be undone. When you hurt your partner, there is nothing you can do to make them un-feel the pain you have caused them. It is the worst thing you can do. You have betrayed them, you have broken their trust and confidence. 


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Cheating isn't just for older married people. College students cheat on their partners too. But why would you cheat on your 20-year-old boyfriend when you can just break up with him? Or why would you break your 19-year-old–girlfriend’s heart when you can just leave? 

Well, to get answers I had to asked some college students person. Here are three short stories by college students who cheated on their partners. 

Our first cheater is a 22-year-old guy we will call "S". Here is his confession:

"I'm 22 years old and I cheated on my girlfriend last summer. I had been with my girlfriend for five years and had never cheated on her before. I left Paris in the summer and went back home to New York to see my family. She stayed in Paris to be with her family too. Things were perfectly fine at first, but as the time passed we grew apart. We talked less. Some days we didn’t even talk, especially with the time difference. When she would wake up, I would be going to sleep. On the weekends, I would leave my family and go stay with my childhood friend. She was a bit older and lived alone. She was 29 and worked as a lawyer. My girlfriend wasn’t happy about it but because she was my childhood friend she trusted me. We didn’t really fight about, however I could sense she was jealous. My friend and I spent a lot of time together, we spoke about everything. She talked about her ex and I talked about my girlfriend. We got close. Then one night we went out clubbing — and we kissed. It felt so strange but I didn’t stop her. We went back home and we almost had sex, but we fell asleep. The next morning, we both felt so bad. The only thing I wanted to do was call my girlfriend, not just because I wanted to tell her but because I missed her. I decided to wait until I went back to Paris to tell her about what happened. I was so scared to lose her so I told her half of the story. She didn't believed me, but she stayed. She decided to stay with me and fix things because I was truly sorry. I was willing to do anything for her. Yet, I know I hurt her so much and that she will never be able to trust me again after what I did.... We are still together, but we have both changed so much. Things have never got back to how they were. I will never cheat again though, cuz I hurt her so bad."


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Our second cheater is an 19-year-old girl we will call "K". Here is K's confession:

"I’m 18 and I cheated on my boyfriend a couple of times. We have been together for two years. We’ve been doing long-distance relationship the whole two years. The first year was great. We talked a lot, we visited each other a couple of times; it didn’t feel that we were apart. Then he started acting wearied. But I didn’t care anymore. He would hang out with girls, go out drinking a lot. He wouldn’t call as much. Things didn’t really seem right. So I started looking for other guys' attention. It felt good to be wanted and valued. I decided to go on a date with this guy. He was a student at my school. He was everything I wanted in a guy. He was cute, long hair, tall and fit. Even though my boyfriend was much better, I still went for it. I kissed him on our first date and after a couple of weeks I slept with him. I didn’t feel bad at all, I felt that I was taking revenge and that I deserved to live my life too. I just didn’t care. After a month, I saw this other guy I really liked. We went on a date had sex the following night. This is when I felt so cheap and guilty. Not because I cheated but because this wasn’t me. I broke up with my boyfriend and never told him why. And I promised myself that I’ll never cheat again."


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Our third cheater is a 23-year-old guy we will call "A". Here is his confession:

"I’m 23 and I have cheated on my girlfriend many times. We have been together of a year and a half. She is older (25) and has more experience than me. I hate that! I know she has slept with other men and, as an Arab, I hate it! She is Arab too, and in our culture a girl who doesn’t wait until marriage to have sex, people lose all respect for her. But I loved her so I tried my best to look beyond that issue. However, deep down I knew she was not the one. That made me cheat a lot! I cheated more than I could count… ahaha it's ridiculous. What’s even more ridiculous is that she found out and still forgave me. She would find texts and photos. Even the girls I slept with would go and tell her. I do feel like shit, but I can’t help it. I hate seeing her cry all the time because of me. Sometimes I even wonder, why is she still with me. But I must admit that I just love sleeping with differed women. We are still together and we both know that I will never change."